🌑 Shadow Work

Write about a time when you realized you were mistaken.

Write about a time when you knew you’d done the right thing.

Write about your darkest teacher.

What do you believe is true, even though you can't prove it?

Write down 10 things no one knows about you.

What am I afraid of?

Which patterns do I see in myself?

What patterns do you recognize in your own life?

What patterns are you noticing in yourself?

Write a Letter to Your Body.

What would you say to your anxiety if it were a person sitting across from you?

What is an emotion you were taught was unacceptable? How has that affected you?

What does your inner critic say most often? Where did that voice come from?

What is the belief about yourself that has caused you the most suffering?

Write about a trait in someone else that deeply irritates you. Explore where that quality lives in you.

What part of yourself have you tried hardest to hide from others?

Write about the version of yourself you gave up to fit in. What happened to them?

What do you most envy in others? What does that envy reveal about your own unmet desires?

What is a shameful memory that you replay? Write it out and then write what you would say to a friend in that situation.

What boundaries do you struggle to maintain? Why?

Write a conversation between two parts of yourself that disagree.

What coping strategy have you outgrown, and what might replace it?

Describe the inner child part of you. What does that part need most right now?

Write about a time you numbed out instead of feeling. What were you protecting yourself from?

Describe a moment from your childhood that you have never fully examined.

Who were you before the world told you who to be?

What story about yourself do you keep telling that might not be true anymore?

What would your life look like if you stopped trying to earn your worth?

Write about a belief you inherited from your culture that you have questioned.

What assumptions do you make about strangers? What do they reveal about you?

What does your relationship with money say about your deeper fears and values?

What is something you have accepted about yourself that you used to fight?

What do you consistently sacrifice for others that you rarely offer yourself?

What are the recurring images or themes in your dreams? What do they suggest?

Write a story in which the villain is a part of yourself you have been ignoring.

How has your relationship with your own body changed over the years?

What parts of your authentic self do you only share in private?

What are you most afraid to want?

What is one area of your life where you are being dishonest with yourself?

Write about the gap between who you present to the world and who you know yourself to be.

Write about what you are holding onto that is no longer yours to carry.

What habit of thought keeps you from moving forward?

What is something you said yes to that you should have said no to? What stopped you?

Write about an expectation you have been carrying that may belong to someone else.

What are you pretending is fine when it is not?

Whose approval do you seek?

What is an uncomfortable truth?

What negative emotion do I feel most comfortable with? Do I cling to this emotion because it feels normal?

When are you most judgemental?

Are your core values similar to your parents or caregivers? Are you happy about that?

Write down a time you felt betrayed. What would you say to that person now?

When are you hardest on yourself? Why do you think that is?

What does failure mean to you? Are you afraid of it? Why or why not?

Do you think you're only as good as your last achievement?

How did you process emotions as a young person? How do you process emotions now?

How do you feel when people overstep your boundaries? What is your reaction?

Do you feel less than, more than or equal to others?

Which personality trait would you hate to be described with? Why?

What emotions bring out the worst in you?

List the traits you don't like in yourself. What vulnerabilities do you think are behind these negative traits? Are there more positive or productive traits you could replace them with?

What is the biggest lie you tell yourself?

Have you ever felt taken advantage of?

What do you want to stop running away from? How could you tackle it head on?

What was your last unkind thought? Did you voice it?

When you think about your life so far, who do you feel you've let down the most? Why?

Describe a situation where you felt envious of someone. Why did you feel this way, and how can you overcome it?

What are your top three insecurities, and how do they affect your life?

What is something you’ve been avoiding facing? Why, and how can you confront it?

What's Something You're Unlearning Right Now?

how could i do shadow work if my childhood seems so blurry?

What’s Been Your Most Eye-Opening Experience with Shadow Work?

In what ways has your family’s financial background influenced your beliefs about money? How do these beliefs affect your current financial situation?

What role does money play in your self-worth? Are you using financial success as a way to validate your worthiness?

What limiting beliefs do you hold about money? How can you challenge these beliefs and create a healthier relationship with money?

What did you have to let die in order to finally come alive?

Why are you so reluctant to be kind to yourself?

Write about a time you put yourself under unnecessary pressure. Why do you think you did this? Were you put under pressure by parents/caregivers?

What situations make you feel less than or not good enough? Why do you think this is?

What are three main goals you want to achieve with shadow work?

What Jungian archetype do you most identify with and why?

When you really think about it, is there anything you’re currently in denial about and avoiding?

Have you ever found yourself manipulating others to protect yourself? When did this start and how does this make you feel?

What were your parents/caregivers morals and values? How do your own morals and values reflect these today, and why do you think that is?

What was one time you can remember feeling wronged as a child? How did you react? How has this affected you in adulthood?

How did your parents react to failure?

What parts of your parents/caregivers do you see in yourself? When did this become apparent and how does it make you feel?

What toxic traits have you noticed in your parents?

How does this statement make you feel? “Parents are human beings. They aren’t perfect or super-human. They make mistakes and mess up just as much as you or I.”

What are your preconceptions about femininity? What do you think this is? Where do you think this came from?

What’s a question you had as a child that never really got answered?

Write about a time someone you trusted betrayed you. How did it make you feel at the time? How do you feel about it now?

Would you call yourself self-destructive? If you do, how do you engage in these behaviours?

When did you first feel the need for love and acceptance? How did you cope with that longing?

What situations make you feel vulnerable with regard to love and relationships? How do they affect your heart chakra?

What barriers have you built around your heart chakra to protect yourself? How can you gently dismantle them?

What does it mean to integrate your shadow?

What is the opposite side of shadow work where you learn about your light side?

When you first start setting boundaries, is it inevitable that you will become angry and hostile about it at first? Is that a necessary stage of growth?

Can shadow work be fun instead of dreadful?

What shadow work are you doing right now on your personal journey?